Smoke & Mirrors : The obscuring or embellishing of the truth of a situation with misleading or irrelevant information.
We justify our addiction by exchanging it with lies. Most often we believe in those lies. Personally I smoke because it represents freedom; but at the cost of my health, wealth and my soul. But that doesn’t matter because I need to keep feeding the monster inside.
I have been addicted to many things in my life time; smoking, alcohol, internet though not necessarily in that order. I have dabbled in drugs, but thankfully never got addicted to it because I never got a chance to stick around long enough. We blame ourselves for our addictions. It makes us feel worthless, insecure and suicidal. It comes in different sizes and flavors, each and every one of them lethal to the addict, no matter how silly it might seem (shopping and food seems too trivial to me, but tell that to the shopaholic who is burning a hole through their bank balance or the big fat person who is eating themselves to death).
But there is an addiction that most people haven’t heard of, Its the addiction to
depression, unhappiness & tragedy. A person addicted to depression will exhibit signs of addiction to alcohol or some other substance/behavior. People like that, attending a traditional therapy will go back to their habit of choice, because they are happier when they are alone, scorned & spurned.
I am one of those types (I think). I hate it, but I cant live without depression. I find myself doing things to make me feel depressed. It’s manifested commonly through alcohol, porn, smoking, shopping, gambling, Internet (didn’t think so did you?), games etc. ( intentionally being obscure). If none of that works, we do things that are self defeating that will cause us personal humiliation.
I am not sure if I can explain myself very well, but ever since I can remember
( I am talking first grade) I liked to cry myself to sleep (I grew up in boarding
schools most of my life). Depression has defined most of my childhood and I am not willing to let it go, so I am not really seeking a cure for my depression. It’s the only friend I’ve known. Smoking is the least of my worries, Its the tip of the iceberg to a far bigger issue.
You see when people tell me that “Smoking Kills” I say “What makes you think that you will live forever?”. Its not the best rational, but when you don’t have a cause to fight for, nothing matters.
If you are interested in knowing more about “Addiction to Depression” please see the links below.
Are you addicted to unhappiness
Depression Addiction
Is depression an addiction?
“Nothing is impossible; the word itself says, ‘I’m possible!’”
– Audrey Hepburn
Well, this was deep.
Although, to me, if I’m in depression- that’s fine. Not that big of a deal. (To the world)
But if I begin to outspread the same depression and destroy happiness in the lives of the people connected to me- that’s the WORST I CAN DO.
P.S. A person, happy or depressed, will surely connect with what you’ve written. 🙂
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thanks… 🙂 🙂
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I had never heard of being addicted to depression. New concept for me. I suffer depression too and now I am wondering whether I savor it. Very thought-provoking post. Thanks.
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u r welcome… It didn’t make it up. I was never diagnosed with it. But I got up one day… and thought this must be it… I googled it and realized that I might be suffering from it
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The worst part of depression is that we don’t know why exactly is it happening and trust me that makes us most depressed. Nice post 🙂
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thanks for reading 🙂
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Depression feeds itself. Tobacco, alcohol, and the rest are “self-medicating” techniques, and they generally do not work. When people blame themselves for being depressed or think they have chosen their depression, they only dig the hole deeper. Acknowledging depression and seeking help are important early steps to recovery. Best wishes for your journey. J.
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You couldn’t be more right. I a taking a medication, but when I do something bad the depression comes back. I sometimes think that if I was a straight bible talking/walking christian, I wouldn’t be depressed. Just thinking loudly
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Im starting a blog aboutmy struggle with addiction please read. http://wp.me/p83NaA-2
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Depression does feed itself. I remember times when I was deep down in it, there was a strange comfort there. And, the worse I got, the more comfortable that state became. This was very transparent and I am glad you shared.
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glad someone understands 🙂
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This was excellent. It was very well written and I loved the content. Very interesting. I think I may have some sort if this addiction too. Slight depression is a very familiar friend to me as well. However, severe depression will always be an enemy or frenemy. Great post. Hugs, Sue
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thanks a lot, Sue. I haven’t had a bout of depression for a while now. I think mine was the result of my sinful life. Not that I am clean now… but I am doing better
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